I remember way back when I was a wee child in grade school. I couldn’t wait to grow up so I could be like the older kids who were all grown up and responsible, and didn’t have to worry about all those childish things. The big adult kids I was talking about were those that were in Junior High School (nowadays they’re called Middle School). Funny thing was, when I got to Junior High School, nothing changed. So I looked ahead and couldn’t wait to get into High School where all the kids there were adults and did adult things, and didn’t fight and carry on like children. So you won’t be surprised to learn that when I made it to High School, it was the same. So continuing the charade, I couldn’t wait to graduate high school and get out into the world. Certainly there is where all the adults were. Business men and business women who knew how to conduct their affairs with proper attitudes, and would never call anyone names like “big, fat, fucking bitch,” “fat ass,” and the like.

Are you surprised that I never found it?

So I gave it some thought about how people act and interact with each other and realized there are just a few, easy, and understandable points we all need to know and learn to help us play well with others. Most of these are things we should have learned in our kindergarten years – but then again, perhaps some of us were still working on potty training and couldn’t be concerned with these at the time.

Be Patient

Sometimes other people have bad days, just like we do. And just because something is an emergency for us, does not mean it’s their emergency. Being pushy doesn’t help move things along; rather, showing a little understanding and allowing them the time to do what they need to do, might be in order.

Find something interesting about the other person

It’s not that difficult. When someone starts talking to you, don’t just ignore them. Everyone has a story to tell, and there might be something very interesting to hear that you never heard before. Just because you might write them off as “someone who dresses like a homeless person,” doesn’t mean that they are a homeless person (and if they are, that they wouldn’t have something interesting to say). Additionally, you never know who a person really is until you’ve invested the time and energy to get to know them.

I used to work at a large firm many years ago. There were about 1200 employees in that one location with additional offices in other parts of the world. In the one division where I worked there was a secretary to the Division Chief that everyone hated because of her attitude (she would always give her work to those secretaries “under” her and then take credit for the work herself). One year, all the secretaries got together for a Christmas Dinner after work, and this particular secretary was coming to the dinner. Others in the group were planning on not attending, feeling it would be so dreary with her there. In the end, we all had an exceptional time – that secretary that everyone hated in the office was a HOOT!! Things were very different after that dinner.

Smile

It sure makes life easier than frowning or looking like your constipated. Besides, they’ve been doing studies lately that find people who are always smiling have a tendency to live longer. Besides, if you have to rip someone up one side and down the other about something, and you do it with a smile, they’ll even thank you for it! My paternal grandmother had that talent!

Don’t Get Angry

It’s such a waste of energy. Besides, every time we experience anger, it’s either because we’re being frustrated, or because we’re feeling hurt. If you’re trying to talk with someone and not getting the answers you want, don’t get angry. Most likely, you’re not talking to the right person about the situation.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Most of the time, it’s just a misunderstanding. They’re having a bad day. They were thinking of someone else when they said it. The only time you need take what someone else says personally, is when they actually state your name: “And YOU Curious Bloke…” In that case, they’ve actually made it personal, but you can still let it go… unless they end their statement with, “and I particularly want you to take this personally because I meant it that way! So there!”

So what it really boils down to is not to let people taunt you. If you’re doing everything “in the light,” there’s no reason to have to fight with others. If you have nothing to hide, you won’t have a need to call someone else names. Adults don’t call people names. Children who haven’t been properly potty trained do.

And if anyone calls you a big, fat, fucking bitch? Well, then they’re just being a stinky poopie head.

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