This is a subject I find to be of great importance – partly because I’m gay, yes; but mostly because I believe in the sanctity of human rights (not gay rights; human rights). And before you get all up in my face saying, “Well, DUH! Of course you believe in gay marriage because you’re GAY,” I’d just like to say that’s not entirely the case. There are actually a large number of gays who don’t believe in marriage, who aren’t fighting for it, and who couldn’t possibly care less about it. Thankfully, those numbers are decreasing as the years go by. And to say that every gay (in which I’m categorizing the entire LGBTQ society) is for gay marriage and gay rights would be akin to saying that every Caucasian fights for white supremacy; or that every Republican believes gay sex is identical to polygamy, incest, and man-on-dog sex (oh, wait – that’s only Rick Santorum).

This blog comes on the heels of New Jersey’s State Senate passing the bill legalizing gay marriage, and Governor Chris Christie vowing to veto it immediately, believing that this issue should be voted on by the public.

But before I continue, I just have to point out a few things. The idea of “gay marriage” has nothing to do about two consenting adults of the same gender legally having sex. It has nothing to do with being able to file federal income taxes jointly. It’s about watching the one you love the most in a hospital emergency room and being refused access to them. It’s about having the rights to make emergency medical decisions on behalf of the one you love. It’s about having the right to legally be with that one person who is your entire life. I’m reminded of an article in the Philadelphia Inquirer back in January (here) which precisely told the issues of the difference between the legal terms “marriage” and “civil union” of which most people are unaware (see the Weiss/Grant part of the story toward the end).

So Gov. Christie intends for gay New Jersians (Jerseyites?) to allow their fates to be voted on by the public through a referendum?

Perhaps New Jersey should also vote on a referendum on all heterosexual marriages; or maybe just Christi’s. Who knows? Maybe the wider New Jersey public doesn’t approve of his overweight lifestyle and could settle that issue with a referendum.

State politicians are (at least on paper) put into office to be the voice of their constituents. The people elect them to speak for them, knowing they have the best interests of their majority at heart (again, at least in theory). The Senate passed it with a vote of 42 for, and 33 against; so it wasn’t a vote that was so close no one could tell the true majority. Yet Christie seems to feel that these legislators know nothing of the people.

Perhaps they don’t. But then again, perhaps Christie is out of touch, as well.